It sounds ridiculous that we would go around lying to ourselves, but we do. It started when we were really tiny children. We watched and experienced things going on in our lives and we made up stories as to why things happen the way they do and what it means about us. These stories become patterns that we re-live over and over and over again.
I’ve been working with some belief transformation coaches from The Real Woman Revolution – yes, in order to up-level, even mentors and coaches need coaches! My life can be a mess, just like yours! At one of our classes I remembered a game my dad used to play with me as a little girl. He would hold up a $50 or $100 bill and tell me he would give it to me if I could tell him which president was on it. For the life of me I could never remember! Each time, after it happened, I would swear to myself that I would remember for the next time. I would recite and practice over and over. My dad would wait long enough for me to forget before he would ask again. I forgot!
At the class I realized that I started telling myself the lie that I couldn’t receive the money because I wasn’t smart enough and didn’t deserve it. I have created scenario after scenario after scenario in my life because of this belief I had about myself. When I cleared this old story, all I could hear were the names of the presidents on all of our currency in my head: “Benjamin Franklin, Ulysses S. Grant, Andrew Jackson, Thomas Jefferson, Abraham Lincoln, and George Washington.” Over and over I heard their names and wanted to shout them from the roof tops. I just typed them from memory because I’ll never forget them now. The message they had for me is that they will always be with me and I can have them whenever I want, not just when I pass some sort of game. An interesting aspect of spirits and angels is that they can be at your side whenever you need them. I know they were there with me that day, whispering to me, helping me remember them.
What lies do you tell yourself and what does it keep you from having?
Here is a video clip done by my friend, Victoria Wynn, and her project “The Lies I Tell Myself.” Watch the photos at the end… the belly bump photo with two little kids is mine! To watch, click here!
I would love to hear about the lies you tell yourself and what they keep you from having and achieving.